The Narcissist As A Psychic Parasite

Alternative Survival Tactics for Those Who Cannot Walk Away

Reclaiming ownership of my soul from an ongoing relationship with a narcissist is one of the most challenging experiences I have encountered but it can be done. If you’ve experienced a significant relationship with a narcissist, you will know just how insidiously and relentlessly destructive it can prove for your soul. Yes, we’re talking soul-level destruction here, resulting in the kind of visceral injuries that become scarred into your DNA. All advice is to get out of a narcissistic relationship as quickly and finally as possible but what if you can’t? Perhaps they are your boss. Perhaps they parent your child or are one of your own parents. What to do if you cannot desist from engaging with the narcissist in your life? How the hell do you survive with any semblance of your soul, let alone heal from the ordeal? I am urging you to re-access the energetic dynamic of the relationship; the energy exchange that occurs between you and the narcissist. I am an Energy Practitioner and this shift in perspective not only saved my sanity, it also allowed me to heal and find myself again. To quote Albert Einstein, “Energy cannot be created or destroyed, it can only be changed from one form to another”. The tactics in this article empower you to begin changing the nature of the the energetic exchange between you. Know this, your narcissist chose you because you shone so brightly. This shining light in your soul was compulsively coveted, hence why they seemed so attentive to begin with. Their care was an uncontrollable compulsion in disguise. Make no mistake, a narcissist needs attention as intrinsically as they need oxygen. Before you were acquired, I will wager my reputation you used to be confident, charismatic, even vivacious. They latched onto you because they coveted your energy, aiming to feed on the attention you drew by osmosis. However, there was that fateful moment they became furiously jealous of sharing the spotlight with you and so began the parasitic feeding of your energy, of your very soul. So began the dimming of your light. Narcissists are often described as energy vampires and of course there is truth in that. However, it goes much deeper. I urge you to think of a narcissist as a Psychic Parasite. This parasite intrinsically knows how to set up home inside you, how to gain access to your energetic body without you even knowing it’s happened. They surreptitiously devour you from the inside out. They burrow their way in so deeply and are notoriously challenging to exorcise, particularly true if you are not in a position to “ghost” them. You are then forced to exorcise the demon while maintaining a relationship with it. If you are in a situation where you suffered narcissistic abuse from someone you are obligated to keep in your life, I urge you to seriously rethink how you view the dynamic of the relationship. As an Energy Practitioner, I work with protective energy daily, it’s part of my energetic health routine. I utilise the following regularly and urge you to try these steps… Energetic Cleansing; Showering Your Soul Anytime you are in contact with your narcissist, energetically cleanse the hell out of everything. This does not just refer to being in their physical presence. If the attention-seeking texts start flying in, cleanse your phone. If they have reason to be in your home or place of work, cleanse the space immediately. If you simply feel their energy lingering in yours, cleanse yourself. They are feeding on your energy. Take this seriously. You need the narcissist vibrations out from your energetic body. Use an appropriate cleansing smoke, sound vibrations, intention setting, salt to absorb negative energy, shower in cool water. Work with crystals such a black tourmaline and mahogany obsidian. Hematite is also a very powerful protector against the narcissistic energy…and do not be shy of utilising them all. Bubble of Protection; Protecting Your Soul Protect yourself every single day. Setting a bubble of protection is not just for times when you are in the company of a narcissist. Connect to your higher source, to whoever and whatever you believe in and ask for protection, daily. Visualise a pure white light completely surrounding you. With gratitude, ask this light act as an impenetrable protection; only energy pertaining to your highest good can get through. Don’t just stop there, place a similar bubble of protection around your home in the same way. Don’t worry if you feel silly to start with, just go with it and take it seriously, it works. Energetic Cord Cutting; Releasing Your Soul Narcissists are skilled at maintaining an energetic connection. They will get your energy literally and/or energetically, they’re not overly fussy which. They want you awake and thinking about them until the early hours. They’ll take that. You need to consciously become aware of the threads of energetic cord linking you to them. Literally visualise them and with a pair of big scissors, cut those cords. Do this as many times as you feel the need. Sometimes I do this daily. Remember Who You Are; Resurrecting Your Soul You’re likely someone who lights up a room, someone others like to hang out with…or you were. They fixated upon you because you brought them even more attention and they loved it. That is until they began to get furiously jealous of you and started to consume your light. So the deconstruction of your very soul began. By now, you may well be wondering where you’ve gone. I swear to you, you are still in there; quieter, dimmer and gasping for air but you are still in there. I beg you, journal, journal, journal. Remember who you were before this parasite took hold. Force yourself to remember. You are still in there, I promise. Actively and consciously force yourself to connect to yourself and remember who you are. Remind yourself of things that make your heart sing, what you used to love doing, what you were/are good at. Remember what makes you laugh. Just remember what makes you, you. Mindfulness; A-Grade, Ongoing Defence of Your Soul Embracing a mindful practice is crucial to prepare yourself for the vitriolic attack which will ensue when you cut off your energy from a narcissist. Not participating in their games and/or declining their energy will infuriate them. They will energetically attack. Mindfulness helps you to observe the dynamic of any exchange, to remove the sense of taking it all personally and allow you to see where the responsibility resides. It dissipates the heat of their anger. It allows you to see the true energetic nature of the relationship and to protect yourself. It can still be a challenge but I’m back. It can be done. You will shine again, you will laugh again and the shame will fade. I promise, gentle soul.

Michele Grieve is a Journaling Coach, Energy Practitioner, Natural Mindfulness Coach, writer and speaker. She is currently writing a book on her systematic method of conscious journaling for wellbeing. She offers Zoom workshops internationally on a variety of writing for wellbeing formats under the “Soul to Page”